This is Tuesday, August 4, 2015. Tomorrow is the first year anniversary of the death of my spouse due to the effects of Alzheimer's. In order to deal with my own personal grief I called 800-272-3900 to review my present state of mind.
I described how it was a year ago when the experience of death was an imminent event and was affecting a wide circle of family, friends and medical professionals. There was no time for myself and family to deal with our shock and grief.
Grief over the coming of Alzheimer's had already been happening for several years. Now it was culminating.
Death, Cremation, Funeral and Interment, Obituary information distribution, Airline Flight arrangements. These and more details dominated life for the entire family and myself in particular.
Since then I have been learning how to deal with one thing at a time, get more sleep, manage nutrition, and other details of daily living. Daughters have been with me regularly as they deal with their own grief.
These particular days are a mix of sadness, rest and learning, social contacts, and thinking about related issues.
I find the writings and Youtube talks about C. S. Lewis in the loss of his spouse after a long and grand relationship. He observes that when religious professionals attempt to offer consolation they just do not understand. There is nothing we can do about suffering than suffer in this situation.
Another resource is in the writings of Pauline Boss. Two books stand out: "Ambiguous Loss"; "Living With Someone Who Has Dementia".
This post is a step in my healing and discovery of who I now am. I think of you who may read this post. Delton
I described how it was a year ago when the experience of death was an imminent event and was affecting a wide circle of family, friends and medical professionals. There was no time for myself and family to deal with our shock and grief.
Grief over the coming of Alzheimer's had already been happening for several years. Now it was culminating.
Death, Cremation, Funeral and Interment, Obituary information distribution, Airline Flight arrangements. These and more details dominated life for the entire family and myself in particular.
Since then I have been learning how to deal with one thing at a time, get more sleep, manage nutrition, and other details of daily living. Daughters have been with me regularly as they deal with their own grief.
These particular days are a mix of sadness, rest and learning, social contacts, and thinking about related issues.
I find the writings and Youtube talks about C. S. Lewis in the loss of his spouse after a long and grand relationship. He observes that when religious professionals attempt to offer consolation they just do not understand. There is nothing we can do about suffering than suffer in this situation.
Another resource is in the writings of Pauline Boss. Two books stand out: "Ambiguous Loss"; "Living With Someone Who Has Dementia".
This post is a step in my healing and discovery of who I now am. I think of you who may read this post. Delton
