The process of recovery from Care Giving in Memory Loss is for the long haul. Let me be personal. I am now in the fourth month of Recovery and new challenges are daily. Every personal account is different. This is my experience.
The shock of separation comes first when it becomes evident that one's spouse will need more care that can be provided in the home. Gradually one deals with the separation experience and the terror that goes with it. Then daily life begins to take over and other thoughts break through. It will take longer than expected for anything that counts as normal happens.
The inevitable feelings of guilt, anger and remorse persist. By talking with family members, a professional counselor, the ALZ Help Line 1-800-272-3900 and other resources the rawness of the helpless state of mind is gradually made more livable.
In due time glimmers of gratitude can be seen. There are bright spots, especially if the Group Home or Care Center where your spouse lives has a compassionate and effective staff. Experiences with other people at church or other groups may be helpful, especially if people do not desire to "fix" the situation or give advice. If they do, know that their intentions are good but they simply do not understand what is going on for you. Make an escape from them.
And all of us get tired and weary so easily. Like right now I am feeling exhausted and will leave off for another time.
Delton
The shock of separation comes first when it becomes evident that one's spouse will need more care that can be provided in the home. Gradually one deals with the separation experience and the terror that goes with it. Then daily life begins to take over and other thoughts break through. It will take longer than expected for anything that counts as normal happens.
The inevitable feelings of guilt, anger and remorse persist. By talking with family members, a professional counselor, the ALZ Help Line 1-800-272-3900 and other resources the rawness of the helpless state of mind is gradually made more livable.
In due time glimmers of gratitude can be seen. There are bright spots, especially if the Group Home or Care Center where your spouse lives has a compassionate and effective staff. Experiences with other people at church or other groups may be helpful, especially if people do not desire to "fix" the situation or give advice. If they do, know that their intentions are good but they simply do not understand what is going on for you. Make an escape from them.
And all of us get tired and weary so easily. Like right now I am feeling exhausted and will leave off for another time.
Delton
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