Death has come for Joan as the only answer to Alzheimer's Disease. On August 5, 2014 the quiet step from being to not being happened. Family and I were present. Since then we have all been into dealing with the transition to a life when spouse and mother is no longer here. At first it seemed as if this could not be and then our minds would say that daily life would no longer include the bright presence of Joan.
Just today I learned that the six month point in time, plus or minus, is medically defined as time when the depths of the hard work of grief comes. There is value in knowing this since one begins to question so much about self stability and health now.
It is said that the first year after the death of a dear person is a roller coaster experience. This has been and is true for me. Suddenly tears come. Appetite is dulled as it was during the Care Giving. One wonders if this time of grieving will go on for the rest of personal life. Sleep is disturbed. What is the use of anything.
As I move through coming months I intend to write more reflections on how the Care Giving process goes for me. Perhaps I can speak as one of that host of people who are dealing right now with Care Giving, Grieving, and Survival. We do need to speak up. Only we can put into words that which we have come to know so well.
Delton
Just today I learned that the six month point in time, plus or minus, is medically defined as time when the depths of the hard work of grief comes. There is value in knowing this since one begins to question so much about self stability and health now.
It is said that the first year after the death of a dear person is a roller coaster experience. This has been and is true for me. Suddenly tears come. Appetite is dulled as it was during the Care Giving. One wonders if this time of grieving will go on for the rest of personal life. Sleep is disturbed. What is the use of anything.
As I move through coming months I intend to write more reflections on how the Care Giving process goes for me. Perhaps I can speak as one of that host of people who are dealing right now with Care Giving, Grieving, and Survival. We do need to speak up. Only we can put into words that which we have come to know so well.
Delton
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